Hi everyone, first let me apologize for the gap in posts last week. You will understand when you read my upcoming posts about my kitchen transformation, but anyone who has done renos/updates can tell you things don't always go as planned.
Anyway, I'm back! And to celebrate Mommy Monday ('cause why not celebrate), I wanted to share with you ten things I've learned since becoming a mom.
1. It's okay to not enjoy all of the little moments.
People will tell you to "enjoy the little moments" and "they won't be like this for long", both are true. But you don't need to enjoy EVERY little moment. For example, that time I had rocked my son to sleep for four hours when he was sick at three am? I'm good, once was enough. There are so many special moments with a baby but not all of them are winners, so don't feel bad if you put a few in the mental recycling box.
2. Doing things for yourself doesn't make you selfish.
I've just started reading again. I mean reading stuff not baby-related. I've spent so much time reading blogs, parenting books, and sleeping books and anything kid related that I forgot that sometimes it's nice to read about two vampires falling in love against all odds. Also, when I take time for myself I'm happier with my family.
3. Asking for help isn't weakness.
Why do we have to do it all ourselves? I thought it takes a village to raise a child? Why now does it seem if we need help we're not doing something right, and why is it mostly other moms that make us feel this way? The best thing I ever did was ask for help with sleeping (read about it here) and it was amazing.
4. Freezer food is the only way you'll eat.
Batch cooking has saved my family, Because somehow even though I can't tell my husband what I did all day, I have no time to cook.
5. I could be part of the paparazzi.
I've very good at taking 95 pictures of the same moment and being unable to part with any duplicates because they're all worth something.
6. Mom guilt is hard (and totally self-imposed).
That's all I have to say for this one, haven't found a way to navigate or let up on myself, any tips?
7. My definition of clean has changed a lot, personally and for my house.
A "top knot" is a classy way of saying "I didn't wash my hair because I'm too tired to dry it". If you're a guest please stick to the main level because I likely only had time to clean that if I had less than 24 hours notice of your arrival.
8. I actually don't need a hell of a lot to be happy. One of my best days to date was a day where we didn't really do anything. My hubby and I didn't do chores or go out or have any special experiences. We just chilled with the baby. Mostly sitting on the floor. And I loved it.
9. It's hard to find yourself amidst all the mommying.
I'm still trying to figure out this new version of me and it can be really hard to have an identity outside of Finn. But I've always been an individual and it's okay to still want to be one.
10. It's hard and that's okay.
I had a difficult time getting and staying pregnant and so I wanted Finn to have a Pinterest worthy first year and I wanted everything to be wonderful. But to be honest, it's not the case (the Pinterest part is wonderful). Being a new mom is hard. Being a new Dad is hard. Being sleep deprived is hard. Finding your confidence as a parent, individual and couple is hard. My mom always says all change is hard, even good change and welcoming a baby is the biggest change you'll ever experience. Knowing it will be hard is one thing, but admitting it's hard and moving forward is equally as important.
I love to cook, entertain, craft and create - all while being a wife, friend, daughter and a mom to a little boy.